It’s no secret that I love giving advice (Hence, the creation of Life Off The Reel). I get a thrill out of successfully overcoming emotional hurdles and sharing how I did it. I love listening to other people’s problems, talking through them and helping them figure out how to overcome them. I’m not sure why, maybe I should have been a psychologist? Maybe I’ll end up being some sort of coach some day? Who knows! But, this post isn’t about my (questionably) great advice giving skills; it’s about how hard it is take our own advice.
Why is that when our friend is dealing with dating problems, relationship problems, career problems or life problems we are so capable of having perspective? Talking them through it and thinking to ourselves, “why is she not getting this? It’s so logical.” Flip the roles, your friend is giving you the exact same advice, and you can’t seem to hear her?
If you came here for an answer, I hate to disappoint you – I literally have no idea why. I wish could figure it out. There has been countless times in my life when I’m heated over an issue, my own advice can be repeated back to me and my response is “that doesn’t’ make any sense.” Have I told you how stubborn I am? Shout out to anyone who has ever tried to help me solve an issue, I’m sorry for acting like you don’t know anything.
While I do not claim to have the answer, in true Taylor fashion, I will offer you insight on the best way I have found to handle this:
Step away from the issue; don’t try to solve it when you’re upset, hurt or angry. It helps me so much to get out of my head and just back into enjoying my life, with the thought that the answer will come to me. Usually it takes a week or so, for my mind to clear, and the advice to repeat itself in my ear. And boom the light bulb goes off.
Maybe we can’t take our own advice because it’s difficult to think clearly when our mind is swirling with emotions? So, friends, as frustrating as it can be to offer advice to a friend who just can’t seem to hear you (especially when she has given you the exact same advice in the past) give her some space. Trust that when her mind clears and she is ready to hear you she will.