So, here’s the deal, giving af what people think of you has been running your whole damn life. It is the cold hard truth. If you are the exception to this rule, congratulations, I don’t believe you.
If you are a human being, chances are you relate to one of the following statements:
- You half ass things because you’re afraid of looking like you’re trying too hard.
- You’re terrified of public speaking because you care too much what the audience thinks of you.
- You’re embarrassed to follow your dream of being a fitness instructor because other people might think you’re being silly and should get a “real job.”
- You dip one toe in your dream, because you’re terrified of what people will think of you if you fail.
- You’re on track to success; the problem is you hate the track you’re on. You know it’s not right for you. But, you are terrified of walking away. What will people think of you when they find out you want to start a silly blog thing, write books and be interviewed by Oprah?
- You constantly feel lost and unhappy with who you are because you have been pretending to be a certain way to try and make people like you.
- You can’t fall asleep at night because you have so much anxiety about the conversation you had with Susie in the office today- you totally made a fool of yourself and sounded like an idiot.
- All of the above.
Plot Twist: Susie wasn’t even listening to what you were saying. She used to get made fun of for having bad acne as a kid, woke up with a pimple that morning and literally couldn’t even pay attention to your conversation because she was so worried that you were secretly grossed out by the pimple on her face…
Giving af what people think of you runs your life. But, here is the good news: it doesn’t have to, YOU HAVE A CHOICE.
In the wise words of Wayne Dyer, “What other people think of you is none of your business.”
As long as you worry about what other people think, you are a slave to their opinions. I will forever look back on 2017 as the year I stopped giving af what people think of me and started actually doing the things I want to do and being who I REALLY am without a care in the world. And let me tell you, I highly recommend it.
Not to say that those feelings don’t come up for me, but I’ve learned that I have a choice. It is like building a muscle, uncomfortable at first but the more you build that muscle the easier it gets. Start to notice moments when you are influenced by it… then remind yourself you have a choice.
Mark Twain once said, “the two most important days in your life are the day you were born and the day you find out why.” I feel ya Mark, but I’m going to go out on a limb here and say:
“The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you decide to stop giving af what people think of you, because that will be the day you actually start living.”