How many times have you consulted your single friend on relationship or dating advice? How many times have you consulted your equally lost mid twenties friends on how to figure out your life? My advice here is, be careful whom you take advice from, including mine. Which is a pretty counter productive statement for me to use, but I genuinely believe this. I do my best to only offer advice when I truly believe that I feel qualified to offer it, but even then what works for me may not be what works for you.
The best way I have found to distinguish if the advice I am receiving is worth taking is to ask myself, “Would I trade places with this person in the area of life they are advising me on?” For example, I wouldn’t take relationship advice from someone I believe to have an unhealthy, or unhappy relationship. I wouldn’t take brand building or social media advice from someone who doesn’t have a brand or social media platform that I aspire to.
Sounds simple enough, right? Except there are plenty of people in our lives who we absolutely love and trust so why shouldn’t we trust their advice?
Something I really appreciate about my mom is that growing up she had very strong beliefs and opinions; she would always share them with me and always offer her advice. But, she NEVER ever expected or pushed me to take it. My mom understands that her advice comes from her life experience and therefore may not always apply to my life. She expected me to ALWAYS listen and respect her advice but encouraged me to think and choose for myself.
It is super super easy to just agree with your parents or the people around you who are opinionated and easily accessible… But, do you really want to make decisions and form your beliefs around what is conveniently in front of you? I’m not saying do not respect the advice of your family and friends, every piece of advice holds value. What I’m saying is give yourself permission to seek out and choose advice that resonates with you.
“It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it” – Aristotle
We are living in the greatest time of human existence where ideas, opinions, beliefs and knowledge are literally a finger tap away. If you don’t have direct access to people who you would trade lives with, find someone online, find a book, listen to podcasts on the subject, seek out ideas that challenge your current perspective.
I knew absolutely nothing about blogging or the value of building a platform that could be used to spread positive messages. In fact, I actually had people who laughed at me “behind my back” and thought the idea was silly and dumb. But, guess what, they were no more qualified to judge the idea than I am to judge the coaching decisions of a pop warner football coach. So, instead of taking the advice of the people I love and trusted I chose to follow my gut and seek out new perspectives. I chose to seek out the knowledge of people who had built something significant from it and I found examples of people who are making a difference from it. And let me tell you, I am more than thrilled that I chose to think for myself. Who knows maybe you will find that you end up back where you started, but at least you can say you CHOSE for yourself.
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